11 AM Moms Talk Q&A: Talking About Bullying

The White House convenes first-ever conference on it, state lawmakers are talking about it, what are your family's experiences with it?

Editor's Note: Today's Q & A focuses on a subject that's probably hit everyone at some point: Chances are, you've been bullied, you may have even been a bully. I was bullied growing up. As an elementary school child it was verbal--words will never hurt you, right? Well, don't believe it. But it got worse in middle school. No sticks or stones. Instead it was physical intimidation. Punches. Getting slammed to the ground after the bell rang and we were getting on the bus. Daily. Gut-wrenching. I went to a good school, with good teachers and administrators, but there wasn't much that could be done to stop what was happening. Eventually (mercifully), it stopped.

Kris March 11, 2011 at 05:41 PM
It seems to me that the model for action is equal to overkill. School is the single most important thing our kids do on their own and side by side with their peers. They can not be left to felt that there is nothing that can be done or that there is something they need to do differently. Bullying has to be addressed when it occurs and bullys, themselves directly, have to be called to own up to their actions and be held accountable. The children that are victims need to feel like their parents are also their advocates, there to stand up for them and protect them when they need it. Unfortunately not all parents are willing to take it as seriously as the children do, so the intimidation continues, grades fall, depression becomes part of their daily routine, social interaction becomes an opportunity for stress to a child that doesn't deserve to feel such things. Since recent years have brought about the connection to intolerance and teen suicide. As parents we must remember that when these situations arise. Here are some common signs that a child may be experiencing these problems: http://www.kidscape.org.uk/parents/signsof.shtml
Natalia Motola March 11, 2011 at 05:54 PM
I think the thing hardest to control are the actions of bullies when adults are not around. Most bullying obviously takes place when they aren't, but teachers, parents, bus drivers need to be hyper-vigilant regarding bullying. I take it seriously and confront the issue head on. Parents need to take responsibility and teach their kids how to act. Although it is difficult because sometimes it is the parents at the root of the problem that creates the bully.
Luelana Bustamante March 11, 2011 at 05:55 PM
Thanks Kris for the tip. It is really important for us parents to keep an eye on our kids and don't let any of these syntoms to affect our kids or even if these are happening, we should be able to recognize as fast as we can to help them go through these.
Gregg Palermo March 12, 2011 at 12:11 AM
Kris, Thanks so much for your insights. They are greatly appreciated. We hope you'll stay involved with Parenting issues as we cover them here at Creve Coeur Patch. Gregg
Laura Collins March 12, 2011 at 04:11 AM


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